7 Ways To Help You Through Self-Isolation

Self-isolation is one of the methods used to help minimise the spread of Coronavirus. Although this is an essential part of the process, it is becoming more apparent that our efforts to do so can prove extremely frustrating for many people. Particularly, as for a large number of people it poses as a major disruption to daily lives, especially if it means being unable to do things like you normally do, such as going out to work and socialising etc.

Although the temporary change can be annoying, remember it is a necessary step for the general welfare of ourselves and to others. And as it is beyond our control right now, there are some things you can do to make it more bearable for you and perhaps look at it in a different way; one that will feel more suited to you.

Here are some ways to help you during self-isolation if you are feeling healthy:

Mental Wellbeing

Your state of mind affects everything you do. It is natural to have worries and fears as we go through this uncertain period, but we need to manage and even compartmentalise this situation somehow, if only to help carry us through on a daily basis.

While this situation it is out of our control, and I know it is tough, we can choose to focus on the things we can control, however small. This could be as simple as organising a drawer or paperwork. This way you are focusing on your present task in hand, giving no thought to other things. And once you have completed the task, you will feel you have accomplished something, giving way to a more positive state of mind.

Reminding yourself of the things you are grateful for in your life can help reposition the compass of your life to what truly matters on a deeper level. This will help to maintain a more positive approach.

Remember, there are no rule books here, just feel your way through it and do what makes you feel good.

Write it out

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Writing is a way of expressing and releasing pent-up emotions. So, try writing everything down. This can include your innermost thoughts and feelings. It doesn’t have to make sense either, just the process in itself can be very cathartic and if this makes you want to burst into tears, while doing so; then let them out. Eventually, you’ll get to a point where you can write no more and that’s okay. If you feel it helps, write more often.

Exercise

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It will help to put some routines in place, while you are at home; this includes an exercise routine. Not only will this help you feel good. It will also give you a goal to aim for help you maintain a positive frame of mind.

It doesn’t matter what type of exercise you do, there are many you can do from the comfort of your own home such as Pilates, yoga, dancing and there are also many virtual workouts you can join in with too!

Relaxation

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Managing your stress is necessary to keep you healthy, both mentally and physically. Do something that helps you unwind and relax. You could try a guided meditation or visualisation; this will help to calm your mind and re-focus it. This way, if ever you start to feel anxious, stepping into this quiet state will help you regain balance in your life and a sense of peace and perspective.

If meditating is not your thing perhaps, do something else that helps you relax, such as reading, listening to some soothing music or sitting leisurely in the garden.

Self-care is part of relaxing, so set aside some time just for you and just ‘be’. This could include taking a leisurely bath, pampering yourself with home treatments such as applying a face mask, a hair conditioning treatment, painting your nails. Take the time to take care of you, looking after yourself is necessary because you are important.

Get creative

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This time is perfect for finding new ways to get creative, such as trying out new recipes while making the most of the ingredients you have; you’ll be amazed at how resourceful you can be. Crafting and creating something out of very few items can be very rewarding and fun too! You can do this by yourself or with your children too.

Learn something new

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This is a great opportunity to learn something you’ve always wanted to. This could be a new skill, a language or even an instrument you’ve always wanted to learn, but never had the chance before. There are so many virtual courses now to help you, and who knows you may discover a hidden talent!

Connect

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While you may be self-isolating, there is no need to feel alone. We are going through this together. The beauty of the internet means that you can have video calls with loved ones, email each other and remember you can also talk to each other on the phone. Social media is also a way of staying in touch with people and staying connected.

Use this time to bond, communicate and connect with your family or friends you live with too.

Remember, this is a temporary situation and it will pass, and you never know, what you discover during this time may even inspire and empower you to adapt and implement some changes to your lifestyle as you move through this new ‘normal’ circumstance.

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ , ‘Building Castles In The Sky : How To Make Your Dreams Come True’ & ‘Fabulously You : live a Life You Love’. She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions

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How To Reduce Overwhelm

As we try to meet the demands of everyday life, more and more people are feeling overwhelmed. It could be from the ever-increasing to-do lists, daily activities, events and the list goes on…

Overwhelm is one of the factors that can lead to stress and anxiety, if left unmanaged.

Here are a few tips to help reduce this dreaded feeling.

Breathe

Take a moment to yourself. Take a deep breath in and exhale out slowly three times. This simple yet effective technique can help you place things into perspective and make you feel better.

Write it down

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First things first, overloading your mind with must-do’s will play havoc with your peace of mind, so get everything down on paper or digitally if you prefer. That can include everything from things you have to do to shopping lists…

Just take it ‘out of your head,’.

Be realistic

Be realistic about your commitments and don’t try to be all things for all people, that is a recipe for disaster. If it looks like you won’t be able to meet an obligation or be somewhere, it is far better to let someone know; rather than feel you’re disappointing them at the last minute. They will probably respect you far better for it in the long-run.

Prioritise

Not everything is ‘urgent’ even though it may appear that way! Place what needs to be done first at the top of your list and place what can wait lower down on your list. And remember, you can always ask for help and delegate where necessary.

Prepare and Plan

Once you’ve got your list, it’s easier to get an idea of what needs to be done and by when. So, grab your diary or planner and begin placing the tasks under separate days. Keep it short and only set two or three tasks a day if you can. This will help make it feel more doable too.

Clarity

As you see it for yourself on your planner or calendar, it’ll help to take the pressure off. Suddenly things won’t seem as daunting as they first did, and this will bring clarity to a once troubled mind.

One step at a time

As you work through your list, try to take things one step at a time if you can. Doing one task at a time and seeing it through to the end will help give you that sense of accomplishment which is very encouraging as it releases the ‘can do’ energy about you.

Calm your mind

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Take a step back and take a deep breath in and slowly exhale out. You should be feeling a lot calmer and better about things.

Remember, most things are never as bad as they first seem, so take things at a steady pace, as you work through one thing at a time and before you know it you’ll have completed your list in a steady, manageable way and who knows? You may even enjoy the process along the way. 😊

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’. She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions

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5 Quick Tips To Bring More Joy Into Your Life

In our constant need to meet the demands of everyday life, it is easy to forget about the simplicities of living, such as finding joy in the little things. Now and then it’s nice to just pause and take a moment to appreciate not only what we have but who we are; and if for some reason we feel not all is as it should be, we can do something about it and change the way we feel by finding ways to make us happier. After all, it is our responsibility to make us happy, not others.

Here are some quick ways to bring more joy into our lives:

Be Grateful

Take a moment out of your day to stop and think about what you are grateful for right now. It could be a recent accomplishment you’ve achieved, your family, something you’ve just bought or something you’re excited about. Just lean into the ‘joy’ of it and notice how it makes you feel.

Make Space

It may sound odd but just decluttering a small area of your home or office can instantly lift your mood. It could be a tiny space such as part of your desk, a table or drawer. There’s something about tidying up that helps you mentally. It places things in order and helps you think more logically; this can help release creativity and inspiration, while also making space for new things and experiences to come into your life.

Smile

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Smiling makes you feel better and greeting someone with a friendly smile makes them feel good; it costs nothing too. 😊

Move

Movement is great for releasing stress and pent-up frustrations that you may pick-up as you go about your day. It helps keep you fit and healthy and helps those ‘feel good’ elements in your brain to kick in. You don’t have to necessarily go out to do this either. You can move around in your own home too i.e. dancing, exercising or jogging on a spot. If you want to meet up with friends for an exercise class, that’s all the more fun!

Talk

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In the world of cyberspace, there is so no need to feel that you are on your own. You can join a social media group, pick up the phone to someone for a chat or go out and meet people. There’s nothing quite like a friendly chat to work wonders and boosts your morale.

 

Remember, ‘everything is temporary’ and that includes feeling down, so the next time you find yourself feeling a little blue try following a couple of these steps to help you on your way to feeling better and bringing more joy into your life. After all, you deserve to live a life filled with joy 😊

By Pamela Sommers

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How To Make Social Media More Positive

Social media can be your best friend or your worst enemy; it all depends on your perspective.

To a large extent you can help towards making it a happier experience for yourself.

Here are some tips to help you along the way:

Like and follow

Like and follow pages and groups that resonate with you i.e. pages and people that light you up with joy and that make you smile and feel like a breath of fresh air when you scroll down your feed. This way, you remain true to your values and beliefs and have a genuine interest in what they are all about.

Equally, if you have given a said page or group a try and it no longer serves you, then simply unfollow or unlike the page or group. Don’t feel pressurised into staying or feel that you have invested so much time in it that you should see your commitment through. Life is too short!

Share positivity

Try to share positive and happy quotes and experiences on your feed. This not only helps others feel good, it’s also a pleasure to scroll down your own feed and feel uplifted.

Get involved when you can

Social media is all about getting social online. So, like, comment and share other people’s posts that you enjoy. It’s a two-way street, so when you interact with others, you’re more likely to encourage others to want to befriend you.

Take a break

You don’t have to constantly post. While it’s great to have consistency, it’s also good for you to have balance. Take a break from it now and then, and get back to the real world to re-charge your batteries so to speak. This reminds you to remain true to what’s important in life and by spending quality time, either with your friends and family or by yourself, you will feel refreshed and who knows? You may even feel inspired to post new content when you are ready!

Know your limitations

I am a big fan that if something doesn’t feel good, don’t do it. So, if it makes you happy and you enjoy taking part, then carry on, if on the other hand it doesn’t then discover something that does work for you. It could be a different social media platform or something entirely different. Remember, you hold the keys to your happiness.

Enjoy

Social media is all about having fun and meeting like-minded people as well as friends and family, so why not enjoy it? You may even make some friends along the way 😊

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’. She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions

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8 Self Care Tips For A Busy Life

Most of us are constantly rushing around with no time to stop and think, let alone take time to care for ourselves. However, in all of this rushing around we are forgetting about the one person who is missing out on feeling their best i.e. You!

You see if you don’t take care of you now, eventually something’s got to give and the majority of the time this could be our overall health, which will eventually affect productivity, whether we like it or not.

The good news is that we don’t have to wait to do something about this. You can start now by taking some simple steps to avoid this.

Here are some tips to help you on your way:

Quiet Time

Taking some time out regularly is one of the best things you can do for yourself. It doesn’t have to be for long, even five minutes a day can make all the difference. This will help you gather your thoughts and learn to tune in to your inner guidance and will help you think more clearly.

Meditation

Meditation benefits your mind and your overall health. Being still and focusing on your breath, as you slowly inhale and exhale creates calmness, and this brings clarity to your thoughts and feelings. This practice trains your mind to become more focused and alert, which is necessary in our everyday lives.

Writing

Writing down our thoughts on paper or in a journal can help you see things more clearly and logically. By taking your thoughts out of your head and on to paper, you are freeing up space in your mind. This helps to prevent overthinking, which often leads to stress and anxiety.

Exercise

Keeping fit is marvellous for your health and wellbeing. It makes you feel good and takes your mind off any worries of the day. It also lifts your spirits and places you in control, which feels empowering.

Healthy Diet

Eating and drinking healthily is part of taking care of you. Aim to get a good variety of fresh fruit and vegetables included in your balanced diet, as we all need fuel to keep us going throughout our day. Staying hydrated is also vital to keep our body functioning effectively, so try to drink plenty of water, this will keep you hydrated and is great for energising too.

Finance

Being financially fit is part of taking care of you. When your finances are in order, it eases your mind. So, track your money regularly, this way you can keep on top of the amount you are spending and how much you are receiving. Mastering your money can bring you a new-found confidence and optimism.

Appearance

Ensuring you look your best goes hand-in-hand with how good you feel and is part of self-care.  So, get your hair done as often as you want to and have regular beauty treatments. Wear outfits you feel amazing in. Self-care is about taking care of yourself both internally and externally.

Fun

Doing things you love is good for your mind, body and soul, It makes you feel alive and is a great reminder of how wonderful life is.

Once you incorporate these tips into your everyday life, they’ll soon become second nature to you.

So, start making self-care a part of your everyday life; because taking care of you today, makes for a brighter version of you tomorrow.

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’. She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions

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8 Tips for Achieving Success

Mindset

Mindset is so important, particularly when you want to be successful. It can make the difference between achieving and not. Your mind governs your body and your actions, it provides the reasoning behind why you do the things you do; if your mind is in order, chances are you’ll feel raring to go and motivated. So, aim to stay in a positive frame of mind as much as possible, it will set you up for success.

Your strengths

Write down your strengths and focus on things you can do. Remembering your good points will help you feel more positive about yourself and sets you up in a ‘can do’ approach to life, which is vital for success.

Why?

When you know the reason behind why you want to achieve a particular goal, you are more likely to make the effort to go after it. It is a personal endeavour, the reason why someone else goes after something, may be completely different to why you do so don’t let that put you off; just make sure you feel passionate about your reason, as this will help you get through the tough times when you don’t feel like doing much.

Make a list

Taking something out of your head and putting it on paper, makes it easier to look at and frees up the space in your head. It can help you look at things calmly and with more clarity. A clear head makes way for a happier life and that can be motivation in itself. Your list doesn’t have to be very long, perhaps start off with only a couple of things on there to begin with and notice the satisfaction it brings as you tick them off.

Track your goals

Breakdown your goals into bite-sized pieces, this makes it easier to digest and take action on. It also makes it clearer for you to see where you are going and the steps you need to take to get there. Taking things one step at a time allows you to make consistent efforts towards your goal, thus enabling you to reach your desired outcome.

Timeline

Creating a timeline of when you want to achieve something by, gives you a sense of perspective and can help ignite the fire for you to take action as you move closer towards achieving your desired goal.

Energy

Energy is everything, without it the chances of you reaching your goal are minimal. So, make the time to prepare healthy meals, stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water and exercise regularly to keep your health in tip-top condition, this will help to give you the energy you need to feel motivated and drive you towards fulfilling your mission. Mental energy is just as important as physical energy, so spend time grounding and meditating if you can, to give yourself the space to sustain and keep a positive frame of mind.

Rewards

When you have achieved your goal make sure that you shout about it and reward yourself. You deserve to feel good about what you have accomplished. This will spur you on and encourage you to move forward leaps and bounds, as you pave the way for more success and tap into your unlimited potential.

 

Here’s to your success!

 

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’. She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions

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How To Try Something New

Is there something you’ve always wanted to do, but you just keep putting it off?

 

Here are some tips to help you take the first steps and make it happen:

 

Be courageous

It takes courage to step out of your comfort zone, but once you do things will seem so much easier. Start by taking that first step.

 

Tell yourself you can

Encouraging yourself from within will help put everything in motion. Try telling yourself that you can do this. It will help shift your way of thinking and turn a ‘some’ day into now.

 

Give it a go

Try not to spend too long thinking about doing something, this can lead to overthinking and procrastination. Instead, just decide to give it a go and see what happens, you never know you could be pleasantly surprised.

 

Celebrate

Give yourself a pat on the back and celebrate when you have achieved something new. You deserve to celebrate your accomplishments, large or small.

 

Confidence to keep going

Once you have done something you’ve always wanted to do, the momentum will build, creating more confidence for you to try even more new things.

 

So, go ahead and be brave, for you never know what you can achieve unless you try.

 

By Pamela Sommers

 

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’.

 

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7 Tips To Help Combat Loneliness

Have you ever felt lonely, even in a crowded room? Many people feel lonely for a variety of reasons. Whether this is due to moving to a new location, someone close passing away, or simply feeling lonely, for no particular reason.

This dark, empty feeling can keep you feeling isolated and play havoc with your self-esteem, if it gets out of control.

The good news is that you can help manage these feelings and feel empowered by doing so.

Here are some tips to help you along the way:

Realise that it is temporary

Loneliness is a state of mind and that means it won’t last forever, even though it may seem like that at the time. This can help remove that heavy, gloomy feeling, as you start focusing on ways to shift your mood.

Do something different

It seems so simple, and it can be. Just by doing something completely different from your normal routine can break the cycle. For instance, try taking a different route to work, trying out a new recipe or even wearing a brighter colour.

Take up a new hobby

Do something you’ve always wanted to do, such as taking an art class, going horse-riding or anything that you have been putting off. If you decide to join a class or group, it can be a lovely way of meeting new like-minded people, who may even become friends.

Travel

Travel often lifts our spirits and can put us in a different frame of mind. It can also be exciting, as you never know what adventures you will have along the way. If you are not keen on going abroad, try visiting another area of your country. A change of scenery alone, can work wonders for you and help boost your morale. You can go with a friend or by yourself and meet lots of people and make friends along your journey. Either way, ‘The world is your oyster’.

Exercise

Exercise is a great way of getting yourself ‘out of your head’ and getting ‘into your body,’ which can be grounding, fantastic for your health, mind and general wellbeing. It’s amazing what a new lease of life it can bring. It is fun too!

 Music

Music is one of the few things in life that can transform your mood in an instant. Play some music that makes you feel good and lifts your spirits. Oh, and feel free to sing along to it too. Expressing yourself in this way is so good for your soul and puts you in a happy place.

It’s good to talk

Talking things through with someone you trust can help you see things more clearly. It is better to get things ‘off your chest’, as opposed to keeping them ‘bottled up’. If you can’t think of anyone to speak to. Therapy or counselling an also help; at first you mind feel awkward about speaking to a stranger, but it’s amazing how just talking to someone can make you feel so much better.

Remember, there is always someone out there who can help you.

You are not alone.

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’.

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5 Tips To Help You Reduce Digital Overload

5 Tips To Help You Reduce Digital Overload

In this modern world we live in, it’s so easy to get caught up with the demands of everyday life. This includes the use of digital devices such as laptops, tablets and mobile phones. While they have many advantages, they are increasingly becoming more of a distraction, which begs the question are they serving us or are we serving them? What started off as a tool to help us has evolved and almost seems like a role reversal; whereby we are almost at the beck and call of our devices. Especially with the endless notifications, reminders and interruptions etc. It’s a wonder we ever get anything done!

It’s time to take back control and rather than reacting to a message or notification, how about responding at a time of your choice and placing the power back into your life? By doing this, not only will you gain peace of mind and mental clarity, but you will also feel in charge of your life and perhaps a little happier having released yourself from digital overload.

Here are 5 tips to help you achieve this:

Turn off notifications

Turn off notifications and even badges (if they prove too distracting) on your smartphone or other device. Instead, only go into an app when you choose to.

Turn off the sound more often

Turn the sound off on your device and only have it on when you are expecting an important phone call or in an emergency. This lessens the need for you to be constantly at the beck and call of your device every time you hear the slightest sound from it.

Manage your time

Minimise the time you spend on your device by only actively going on there at specific times of the day. For instance, perhaps reduce it to a maximum of 5 times a day to check if you have any notifications or messages, or if this sounds too extreme for you, start by only checking your device once an hour and gradually reduce the time. This will decrease distractions, allowing you more time for productivity, creativity and enable you to think more clearly.

Focus

Focus your attention and energy elsewhere and do something you’ve always wanted to do; this could be a new hobby, a skill such as learning a language, taking an art class or you could do something you have always wanted to do. Watch your creativity and confidence soar.

Quality time

Get back in touch with what you love and spend time with people you like to be around. Really be present when you are with them, by putting your device on silent or switching it off, that way you will have quality time and fun.

Before you know it, spending your days staring at a device will be a thing of the past, as you will soon be able to take back control and resume living your life again.

Enjoy!

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’.

‘As seen in’ Success magazine, HuffPost, The Independent, Metro UK, Belfast Telegraph, LadyBossBlogger & Female First UK.

She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions.

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7 LIFE LESSONS FOR A 20 SOMETHING

Life Lessons for a 20 something

Life can be tough at times, so it’s always nice to have a helping hand now and then, to guide you through the ups and downs.

Here are some tips to help you make the most of your life and give you that head start.

Love And Be Kind To Yourself

You have to be able to love yourself first before you are able to show love to others. This includes taking care of yourself, as well as being kind to yourself. This could involve relaxing to recharge, meditating to help you focus, exercising to stay fit and eating the right foods to keep you healthy. These are all part of looking after yourself. You can also show yourself some love by doing things that you enjoy, such as a hobby. When you support yourself first, you will be in a better position to help others and achieve what you want out of life.

Just Be Yourself

We often go through life trying to fit in with others, especially when we are young, usually it’s out of fear of being the odd one out. However, as you learn more things about yourself, there comes a time when you realise that you are an individual with talents, dreams, opinions and tastes. These become clearer as an adult and is part of what makes you unique and interesting.

Try to remain true to you by being yourself. It’s a lot more fun!

You Are Good Enough

You are already good enough by being you. Realise your strengths and take a moment to think about all the things you have got going for you. If you need outside confirmation, read through positive comments, feedback, compliments you have had, times when you have won things, accomplishments, awards and times you have helped others. These will all help towards building your self-worth and self-esteem. Don’t give anyone the power to put you down or make you feel less than. Stand strong in the knowledge that you are good enough.

Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

There is a constant need, where people feel they have to look a certain way or be a certain way in order to be valued as an important part of society. This is particularly apparent in social media; where many may look like they have the perfect lifestyle with flawless images of themselves. However, this isn’t always real, in many cases it’s just a façade.

You have many qualities. Write down 10 good things about yourself. I know at first this may seem hard but try it out and you will soon find that it becomes easier. Keep these in an accessible place, so that it serves as a reminder of how great you are. When you focus on the good things about yourself and what you can do, you will soon find that there’s no need to compare yourself to others because you are brilliant just as you are. Focus on the good in you.

Learn How To Manage Your Money

Everything can be learnt, and that includes managing your money. Take the time and research how to do this effectively, this will prepare you for later in life and minimise lack of control over your finances. If you start managing your money early on you will thank yourself for it in years to come. Begin by opening accounts with a bank and start saving regularly. The habit of saving is more important than the amount you put away, at this stage. Also, make sure you spend less than you have coming in, this way you will always have money in your account.

Start Making Goals

Write down your goals and the steps it will take to make them happen. Writing them down is the first step into putting them into action. This will also provide mental clarity which will pave the way to your bigger vision.

Dream It, Do It

Believe you can do anything you set your heart and mind to, don’t become swayed or distracted. Stay on the path and take action towards your goals, this will prepare you for success.

And remember, ‘the world is your oyster’

It all starts by taking that first step.

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By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’. She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions

Website: www.pamelasommers.com

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