8 Tips for Achieving Success

Mindset

Mindset is so important, particularly when you want to be successful. It can make the difference between achieving and not. Your mind governs your body and your actions, it provides the reasoning behind why you do the things you do; if your mind is in order, chances are you’ll feel raring to go and motivated. So, aim to stay in a positive frame of mind as much as possible, it will set you up for success.

Your strengths

Write down your strengths and focus on things you can do. Remembering your good points will help you feel more positive about yourself and sets you up in a ‘can do’ approach to life, which is vital for success.

Why?

When you know the reason behind why you want to achieve a particular goal, you are more likely to make the effort to go after it. It is a personal endeavour, the reason why someone else goes after something, may be completely different to why you do so don’t let that put you off; just make sure you feel passionate about your reason, as this will help you get through the tough times when you don’t feel like doing much.

Make a list

Taking something out of your head and putting it on paper, makes it easier to look at and frees up the space in your head. It can help you look at things calmly and with more clarity. A clear head makes way for a happier life and that can be motivation in itself. Your list doesn’t have to be very long, perhaps start off with only a couple of things on there to begin with and notice the satisfaction it brings as you tick them off.

Track your goals

Breakdown your goals into bite-sized pieces, this makes it easier to digest and take action on. It also makes it clearer for you to see where you are going and the steps you need to take to get there. Taking things one step at a time allows you to make consistent efforts towards your goal, thus enabling you to reach your desired outcome.

Timeline

Creating a timeline of when you want to achieve something by, gives you a sense of perspective and can help ignite the fire for you to take action as you move closer towards achieving your desired goal.

Energy

Energy is everything, without it the chances of you reaching your goal are minimal. So, make the time to prepare healthy meals, stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water and exercise regularly to keep your health in tip-top condition, this will help to give you the energy you need to feel motivated and drive you towards fulfilling your mission. Mental energy is just as important as physical energy, so spend time grounding and meditating if you can, to give yourself the space to sustain and keep a positive frame of mind.

Rewards

When you have achieved your goal make sure that you shout about it and reward yourself. You deserve to feel good about what you have accomplished. This will spur you on and encourage you to move forward leaps and bounds, as you pave the way for more success and tap into your unlimited potential.

 

Here’s to your success!

 

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’. She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions

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How To Try Something New

Is there something you’ve always wanted to do, but you just keep putting it off?

 

Here are some tips to help you take the first steps and make it happen:

 

Be courageous

It takes courage to step out of your comfort zone, but once you do things will seem so much easier. Start by taking that first step.

 

Tell yourself you can

Encouraging yourself from within will help put everything in motion. Try telling yourself that you can do this. It will help shift your way of thinking and turn a ‘some’ day into now.

 

Give it a go

Try not to spend too long thinking about doing something, this can lead to overthinking and procrastination. Instead, just decide to give it a go and see what happens, you never know you could be pleasantly surprised.

 

Celebrate

Give yourself a pat on the back and celebrate when you have achieved something new. You deserve to celebrate your accomplishments, large or small.

 

Confidence to keep going

Once you have done something you’ve always wanted to do, the momentum will build, creating more confidence for you to try even more new things.

 

So, go ahead and be brave, for you never know what you can achieve unless you try.

 

By Pamela Sommers

 

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’.

 

She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions.

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7 Tips To Help Combat Loneliness

Have you ever felt lonely, even in a crowded room? Many people feel lonely for a variety of reasons. Whether this is due to moving to a new location, someone close passing away, or simply feeling lonely, for no particular reason.

This dark, empty feeling can keep you feeling isolated and play havoc with your self-esteem, if it gets out of control.

The good news is that you can help manage these feelings and feel empowered by doing so.

Here are some tips to help you along the way:

Realise that it is temporary

Loneliness is a state of mind and that means it won’t last forever, even though it may seem like that at the time. This can help remove that heavy, gloomy feeling, as you start focusing on ways to shift your mood.

Do something different

It seems so simple, and it can be. Just by doing something completely different from your normal routine can break the cycle. For instance, try taking a different route to work, trying out a new recipe or even wearing a brighter colour.

Take up a new hobby

Do something you’ve always wanted to do, such as taking an art class, going horse-riding or anything that you have been putting off. If you decide to join a class or group, it can be a lovely way of meeting new like-minded people, who may even become friends.

Travel

Travel often lifts our spirits and can put us in a different frame of mind. It can also be exciting, as you never know what adventures you will have along the way. If you are not keen on going abroad, try visiting another area of your country. A change of scenery alone, can work wonders for you and help boost your morale. You can go with a friend or by yourself and meet lots of people and make friends along your journey. Either way, ‘The world is your oyster’.

Exercise

Exercise is a great way of getting yourself ‘out of your head’ and getting ‘into your body,’ which can be grounding, fantastic for your health, mind and general wellbeing. It’s amazing what a new lease of life it can bring. It is fun too!

 Music

Music is one of the few things in life that can transform your mood in an instant. Play some music that makes you feel good and lifts your spirits. Oh, and feel free to sing along to it too. Expressing yourself in this way is so good for your soul and puts you in a happy place.

It’s good to talk

Talking things through with someone you trust can help you see things more clearly. It is better to get things ‘off your chest’, as opposed to keeping them ‘bottled up’. If you can’t think of anyone to speak to. Therapy or counselling an also help; at first you mind feel awkward about speaking to a stranger, but it’s amazing how just talking to someone can make you feel so much better.

Remember, there is always someone out there who can help you.

You are not alone.

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’.

‘As seen in’ Success magazine, HuffPost, The Independent, Metro UK, Belfast Telegraph, LadyBossBlogger & Female First UK

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5 Tips To Help You Reduce Digital Overload

5 Tips To Help You Reduce Digital Overload

In this modern world we live in, it’s so easy to get caught up with the demands of everyday life. This includes the use of digital devices such as laptops, tablets and mobile phones. While they have many advantages, they are increasingly becoming more of a distraction, which begs the question are they serving us or are we serving them? What started off as a tool to help us has evolved and almost seems like a role reversal; whereby we are almost at the beck and call of our devices. Especially with the endless notifications, reminders and interruptions etc. It’s a wonder we ever get anything done!

It’s time to take back control and rather than reacting to a message or notification, how about responding at a time of your choice and placing the power back into your life? By doing this, not only will you gain peace of mind and mental clarity, but you will also feel in charge of your life and perhaps a little happier having released yourself from digital overload.

Here are 5 tips to help you achieve this:

Turn off notifications

Turn off notifications and even badges (if they prove too distracting) on your smartphone or other device. Instead, only go into an app when you choose to.

Turn off the sound more often

Turn the sound off on your device and only have it on when you are expecting an important phone call or in an emergency. This lessens the need for you to be constantly at the beck and call of your device every time you hear the slightest sound from it.

Manage your time

Minimise the time you spend on your device by only actively going on there at specific times of the day. For instance, perhaps reduce it to a maximum of 5 times a day to check if you have any notifications or messages, or if this sounds too extreme for you, start by only checking your device once an hour and gradually reduce the time. This will decrease distractions, allowing you more time for productivity, creativity and enable you to think more clearly.

Focus

Focus your attention and energy elsewhere and do something you’ve always wanted to do; this could be a new hobby, a skill such as learning a language, taking an art class or you could do something you have always wanted to do. Watch your creativity and confidence soar.

Quality time

Get back in touch with what you love and spend time with people you like to be around. Really be present when you are with them, by putting your device on silent or switching it off, that way you will have quality time and fun.

Before you know it, spending your days staring at a device will be a thing of the past, as you will soon be able to take back control and resume living your life again.

Enjoy!

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’.

‘As seen in’ Success magazine, HuffPost, The Independent, Metro UK, Belfast Telegraph, LadyBossBlogger & Female First UK.

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7 LIFE LESSONS FOR A 20 SOMETHING

Life Lessons for a 20 something

Life can be tough at times, so it’s always nice to have a helping hand now and then, to guide you through the ups and downs.

Here are some tips to help you make the most of your life and give you that head start.

Love And Be Kind To Yourself

You have to be able to love yourself first before you are able to show love to others. This includes taking care of yourself, as well as being kind to yourself. This could involve relaxing to recharge, meditating to help you focus, exercising to stay fit and eating the right foods to keep you healthy. These are all part of looking after yourself. You can also show yourself some love by doing things that you enjoy, such as a hobby. When you support yourself first, you will be in a better position to help others and achieve what you want out of life.

Just Be Yourself

We often go through life trying to fit in with others, especially when we are young, usually it’s out of fear of being the odd one out. However, as you learn more things about yourself, there comes a time when you realise that you are an individual with talents, dreams, opinions and tastes. These become clearer as an adult and is part of what makes you unique and interesting.

Try to remain true to you by being yourself. It’s a lot more fun!

You Are Good Enough

You are already good enough by being you. Realise your strengths and take a moment to think about all the things you have got going for you. If you need outside confirmation, read through positive comments, feedback, compliments you have had, times when you have won things, accomplishments, awards and times you have helped others. These will all help towards building your self-worth and self-esteem. Don’t give anyone the power to put you down or make you feel less than. Stand strong in the knowledge that you are good enough.

Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

There is a constant need, where people feel they have to look a certain way or be a certain way in order to be valued as an important part of society. This is particularly apparent in social media; where many may look like they have the perfect lifestyle with flawless images of themselves. However, this isn’t always real, in many cases it’s just a façade.

You have many qualities. Write down 10 good things about yourself. I know at first this may seem hard but try it out and you will soon find that it becomes easier. Keep these in an accessible place, so that it serves as a reminder of how great you are. When you focus on the good things about yourself and what you can do, you will soon find that there’s no need to compare yourself to others because you are brilliant just as you are. Focus on the good in you.

Learn How To Manage Your Money

Everything can be learnt, and that includes managing your money. Take the time and research how to do this effectively, this will prepare you for later in life and minimise lack of control over your finances. If you start managing your money early on you will thank yourself for it in years to come. Begin by opening accounts with a bank and start saving regularly. The habit of saving is more important than the amount you put away, at this stage. Also, make sure you spend less than you have coming in, this way you will always have money in your account.

Start Making Goals

Write down your goals and the steps it will take to make them happen. Writing them down is the first step into putting them into action. This will also provide mental clarity which will pave the way to your bigger vision.

Dream It, Do It

Believe you can do anything you set your heart and mind to, don’t become swayed or distracted. Stay on the path and take action towards your goals, this will prepare you for success.

And remember, ‘the world is your oyster’

It all starts by taking that first step.

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By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’. She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions

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How To Make Decisions With Ease

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Decision-making is part of everyday life. Some decisions can be life-changing, while others may not be as major, but are still necessary.

Here are some tips to help you make decisions with ease:

Calm Yourself

  • Go somewhere quiet or close the door. Take a few slow deep breaths and give yourself a couple of minutes to calm yourself, this helps to clear your mind and focus.

 

Pro’s and Con’s

  • Make a list of pro’s and con’s and weigh up the benefits. Try to remain emotionally detached during this step, as thinking logically can make the initial decision clearer.

 

How Do You Feel?

  • Now, check your feelings about each decision separately i.e. how do you feel if you went with decision A? Then do the same for decision B. Notice the difference between them.

 

Check Your Body Language

  • Which one feels better to you? If you have time and space, you can also try this with your body language or posture. For instance, stand or sit up straight; If you lean forward to a particular decision compared to the other, that is usually a decision that you feel more comfortable with. Whereas the opposite is true, if you find yourself leaning further back and away from a decision.

 

Act Now

  • Make the decision fast, put it into action and stick to it, this will free up space in your mind and free up your time, so that you can move on to something else.

 

 

Once you have made a decision, especially a major one, it can feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. So, take a deep breath in and a slow breath out. This will help you feel calmer and more relaxed, confident in the knowledge that you have made the right decision for you.

 

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’. She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions

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Happiness Now

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Many people want to be happy and think of it either as something that happened in the past; or that it is something to strive for and can only be found in the future. They may think that when they win the lottery they’ll be happy or when they move to a different country or get their dream job then they’ll be truly happy. They see happiness as an end goal, rather than a journey. But why wait to be happy? Happiness begins from within and you can be happy right now. You do not require permission from others and there is no need for an event to take place to make you happy. Yes, there will be times when you cannot alter certain situations and while you cannot control what happens outside you are able to control how your feelings and that includes happiness.

If you stop looking externally and to others to make you happy, you’ll realise that you have the power to make yourself happy, you are responsible for your own happiness and above all; you deserve to be happy.

Here are some tips to help you feel happy.

Play Music

Playing your favourite music is a great way of raising your vibration and changing the atmosphere around you instantly, this equally lifts your mood and makes you feel good.

Move

Movement takes you out of your head and into your body, which shifts your thoughts and can change your perspective of things. For instance, if you were worrying about something and then you hear some music you love which stirs you to start dancing; suddenly you won’t feel so bad any more as everything looks brighter. Exercise is also a great motivator.

Gratitude

Write down or say out loud 3 to 5 things you are grateful for, this will serve as a reminder of what is going well in your life and remind you of happy times that will help make you smile.

Scents

It’s amazing how the smell of your favourite perfume or aftershave can transform your mood. So, if you’re at home, work or out and about have a quick spray and know how good it makes you feel. Equally, aromatherapy scents in a room can change the whole atmosphere and can calm or energise you; either way it has a positive effect.

Positivity

If you have a mirror handy, tell yourself 3 things you love about yourself, doing this regularly boosts your confidence and increases feelings of happiness. This can also give you a spring in your step, as you can’t help but feel good.

 Kindness

Being kind to others is reward in itself and so is being kind to yourself too. Take time out to do something you love, whether this means sitting and reading leisurely or going out and doing an activity you enjoy. Being kind to yourself can be so beneficial, it is good for your mind and soul.

Achievements

Celebrate your successes, no matter how small. Remind yourself of all the great things you can do and how good it feels to be alive.

Smile

Smiling has away of making you feel brighter about yourself and helps others around you to feel happier too.

 

Remember, you are amazing and happiness starts with you 😊

 

By Pamela Sommers

Pamela Sommers is the award-winning & bestselling author of ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and ‘Building Castles In The Sky’. She is also the Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions

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5 Tips To Help Increase Your Money

Most people would like more money in their life and find it hard to figure out how to make more money. Sometimes it takes another person’s perspective to find ideas of what to do. With a little tweak of your accounts and a whole lot of effort, it may be easier than you think to bring in more money. Who knows it may even be fun!

Here are some tips to help increase your money:

Purpose

Money is a tool, so give it a purpose and set a goal of what you would like the money to be used for. It could be a holiday, buying a new outfit, a new book; something that brings you joy; that way when you have reached your goal and made that purchase you will associate money with fun. This makes it more of a pleasure and will encourage you to set more goals in the future, which you know you are capable of achieving. You may be surprised of how quickly it will take to reach your goal.

Incoming and Outgoing

Write down everything that you spend, and I mean everything 😉, this way it will be easy to keep track of without any hidden surprises. Also, be sure to make a note of every time you receive money. This could include an unexpected bonus, income, royalties, prizes, gifts etc.  This will also help put things into perspective because once you know where your money has been going, the sooner you will be able do something about it.

Wave Goodbye

After you have discovered where your money has been going you will gain clarity. Now decide on what things you no longer want to do or things you don’t need and cancel any direct debits or recurring subscriptions you forgot you had and have seldom used. It is amazing how much money can be saved from old direct debits that have forgotten to be cancelled. This will release money you have been virtually giving away, which means more money for you 😊.

Save

Start a new habit to save. Aim to save at least 10% of you monthly income. Open a savings account and set up a standing order so a fixed amount goes out from your current account and goes into your savings account automatically, this way you don’t have to think about it. Try to only glance at it once or twice, that way it will be a pleasant surprise when you do take a peek. Don’t worry too much about the amount of money you are putting in, it doesn’t matter how small it is to begin with. It is the habit itself that will make a difference. Once you are comfortable setting aside a small amount, you can always increase it.

Opportunities

Make the most of every opportunity to bring more money in. This could involve going through your wardrobe and selling any new or like new clothes which are in great condition, but you have never worn or are never likely to wear; selling any unopened gifts to even baking cakes and selling them at a local stallholder event. You never know you may have so much fun doing this and it could lead you to start a business of your own!

These are only a few ideas to get you started, before you know it there’ll be no stopping you

You Got This!

By Pamela Sommers

*The content of this article is the sole expression and opinion of its author. This material does not constitute as financial advice only opinion. Before making any financial or investment decisions, I recommend you consult a financial planner to take into account your personal investment objectives, financial situation, and individual needs.

Pamela Sommers is the author of best seller ‘Life Lessons from a 40 something…’ and Founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique providing jewellery & accessories for special occasions

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Show Yourself Some Love

Most people find it easier to show others love and attention and forget about themselves. Perhaps it is out of habit or maybe they simply do not put themselves first. There is no need to feel guilty about loving yourself. In fact, if you love yourself completely you are more likely to feel better about yourself and be a happier person to be around. Self-love is one way of ensuring you value yourself and increase your self-worth. We all need love in our lives, from others and from ourselves.

Make time for yourself, here are some ways you can begin showing yourself some self-love:

Look After Yourself

Eat and drink healthily with food and drinks that nourish and support you and exercise regularly to energise, strengthen, increase your stamina and overall health.

Quality Time To Yourself

While it is great to surround yourself with those you love, it is equally important to take some time to be by yourself. It is almost like getting to know yourself again and appreciating who you are as an individual. Even if it is just for 10 minutes a day. You can do something you enjoy or simply enjoy the peace and quiet around you to gather your thoughts.

Be Still

It is surprising how being quiet and still for just a few minutes a day can make all the difference to your day. Just slowing down physically can also help you slow down mentally and help you re-gain your natural balance and focus.

Meditate

Meditating can really help you keep calm and continue with your day. It doesn’t have to involve sitting quietly and breathing deeply. Being in a meditative state can be just as rewarding; whether this is gardening, listening to music or cooking. Do something that puts you in a position of peace and tranquillity and you’ll soon find just how  beneficial to your health and well-being it can be.

Appreciation

Show yourself some appreciation; this could mean starting a gratitude diary where you list all the things you are grateful for or you could simply say 3 things you are grateful out loud every morning. This is a great reminder of all the good in your life and also sets you up for a fantastic day ahead. When you start to appreciate yourself, others around you will follow suit and help enhance the positive atmosphere around you.

Reward

Remember to treat yourself regularly; this could mean pampering yourself with a new hair-do, facial, massage, by going out for a meal, or even by buying a special outfit. Reward yourself with something that makes you feel amazing. It’ll make the world of difference.

Encouraging words

Speak words that encourage and support you both internally and to others. This will uplift, motivate and empower you and create a positive atmosphere around you.

By showing yourself some love and appreciation regularly, you will feel better about yourself and much happier.

Start showing yourself some love and sharing your happiness 😊

By Pamela Sommers

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Tips To Help Increase Your Self-Confidence

Many people think that when it comes to self-confidence you either have it or you don’t. That’s not always the case. In fact self-confidence, just like many other skills can be learnt. The more you practice it, the better you become at it. It is almost like an art form, enjoy and have fun with it. It could make such a difference to your life.

Here are some tips to try out and discover what works best for you.

Positive Talk

The first step is to start from within. Pay attention to your self-talk, what kind of things do you say to yourself on a regular basis? You may be surprised at the amount of negative thoughts you have about yourself. A lot of these are habits, which can be changed over time. For instance, if you have a habit of putting yourself down or calling yourself names; start by saying something positive about yourself to counter-act the negative remark. The more often you do this, the quicker it will take you to start replacing the negative talk with positive remarks. This will have a great impact on how you start to feel about yourself.

Posture

How you stand and walk has a considerable impact on how you are feeling. If you have a habit of slouching and looking down, you are conveying the message that you don’t think you are worthy or good enough. Try standing and walking tall with your shoulders down. This not only makes you look so much better, but you will instantly feel much more positive. When you appear confident, others will perceive you as such and this will help you feel like you can accomplish anything you set your mind to.

Speech

Try slowing down the pace a little when you speak. This will help you feel in control of your voice. Lowering your voice slightly when you give instructions will help you maintain a position of authority and command others attention towards you and what you have to say. Whereas, if someone speaks fast and at a higher pitch this can have the opposite effect. Try it out and see.

Practice

If you have an event coming up, such as public speaking or demonstrating something, it is natural to experience some nerves in the lead up to the event. Rehearsing and practicing beforehand will help you focus on the task at hand. Preparation is key to a successful outcome, it will increase your competence and the process itself can ease away any negative feelings and assure you that you know what you are doing.

Visualise

Visualise the outcome you want to achieve. This works for many successful people. When you see yourself doing something good and positive in your mind, you are half-way there. Your mind governs your body and actions, so if your mind can see it happening, your actions will follow to make it happen and this will instil self-confidence and help you feel like you can achieve it.

Presentation

How you present yourself to the world says a lot about how you think of yourself. Invest time in taking care of your appearance. Have a skincare routine, exercise regularly, get your hair done now and again and dress in clothes that make you look good. When you look good, you feel good, the two go hand-in-hand. When you feel good about yourself, you will naturally feel more confident.

Love Yourself

This step is the most important of all. Make time to really get to know yourself. Start by writing down 10 things you love about yourself. Focus on your positive qualities and enjoy being you. When you truly love yourself, it becomes easy to show love to others around you; and sharing this great feeling with them and your confidence will soar. Remember, you are lovable, you are loving and you are loved.

 

By Pamela Sommers

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